Slut shaming ♡



I've been wanting to post something about slut shaming for a while, and for some reason i've put it off for such a long time but today I woke up and I was like wow, I really need to do this. On the internet, and in real life the words slut, and whore are thrown around so easily it's disgusting. I honestly probably hear the world slut three times a day. Its all over the media and its brainwashing our society to look as woman as an object, not a human being. In the typical teen movie, what do you see? A girl who hooks up with a guy and she's labeled as a "slut" or a "whore" and the man in the situation is congratulated and basically worshiped. As kids from this generation this is what we grow up with. When we're in school theres always that one girl that everyone thinks is a "slut". Slut shaming is everywhere and we can't escape it, but we can learn about it, and teach others. 


Slut shaming attacking a woman for being a sexual being and or having one or multiple sexual partners.  People who slut shame usually see sexual activity in a different light, or was raised to believe societies standards for a woman. Slut shaming is very damaging to a woman's self esteem and can harm the way she sees things. Slut shaming can still happen even if someone isn't being called a slut. They can be judging her for her sexual values, partners, or openness about her sexuality. When society dictates what woman should and shouldn't do it's taking away her freedom. If a girl wears a short dress and heals, people call her a slut. If shes hanging out with guys, people call her a slut. If she takes a photo with her breast showing, people call her a slut. Did you know there are about 220 words for a sexually promiscuous woman but only 20 for a man?

Whenever I talk about slut shaming on tumblr/twitter people always ask me what if so and so did this, that means they really are a slut, right? No. The answer is no. What a person does sexually is none of your business, nor should it concern you. Woman should be allowed to wear, act, and do what they want without someone calling her damaging names. If a man did any of these things, nobody would wink an eye. Double standards. 


"A reputation acquired in adolescence can damage a young woman’s self-perception for years. She may become a target for other forms of harassment and even rape, since her peers see her as “easy” and therefore not entitled to say “no”. She may become sexually active with a large number of partners (even if she had not been sexually active before her reputation). Or she may shut down her sexual side completely, wearing baggy clothes and being unable to allow a boyfriend to even kiss her." -Leora Tanenbaum 


"How many times has rape been discounted because a woman was deemed a slut? How many times are women called whores while their partners beat them? How often are women’s sexual histories used against them in workplace harassment cases? The sexual double standard is a lot more dangerous than we’d like to think." -Jessica Valenti

♥ What can I do? 
Educate yourself, and your friends. Stop using any words that suppress a woman's sexual life. If you see a woman being slut shamed, stand up for her. You never know what shes going though. When educating your friends, educate the men around you. Men tend to use the word slut a lot more often than woman, I find. Explain everything to him/her.

Please remember that a woman should be free. You are free. Don't let anyone tell you what to wear, how to dress, how to act, or how to express yourself. I love you, love yourself, and love those around you. 

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17 comments :

  1. I adored this post. I get super pissed and annoyed when I see someone calling another a slut, hoe, whore, what have you. I stopped calling other girls sluts and whores once I read more about it and saw the damage it does to others and how it's such a huge, disgusting influence. I find other insults, I never use the words above.

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  2. Lovely post. I'm so glad you speak about this because it is such a big deal. We really have to stop using those kinds of words and teach all those around us to stop as well. Thank you for putting this out.

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  3. I toootally agree. I wish everyone felt this way.

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  4. What if a girl lets 4 guys gangbang her? Are they all sluts?

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  5. What if a girl tries to have sex with a guy she knows is taken?
    Not saying that this is a situation that is person to me, it's not.
    But it seems that such a situation could at least condemn them to be called such a name as slut.

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    1. you shouldn't use the word slut or whore or hoe or any derogatory names like that in any situation, under any circumstances. doing so makes you as bad as the person you're trying to put down.

      sleeping with someone who's taken is immoral and low and dishonest. a "slut" doesn't exist. a slut is a word that society has made to shame women into following a puritanical, hypersexualized image of a female. you aren't a slut for sleeping with someone who already has a girlfriend -- it's just a bad thing to do.

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    2. I would say she is desperate not a slut. No offense or anything.

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    3. How about the actual GUY who's taken?? Why is she the only one at fault? the only one called names? And desperate? - no, if she were desperate she'd go after someone more attainable. To me you all sound bitter.

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  6. I have always been one to never say negative words like so to a person, whether they be man or woman. I also always let people know that their words hurt. I know women are usually targeted, but so are men! When a girl says that all men are slimy, perverted, horny beings, it's offensive. Not all men are like that. I feel that these words only come out of us because we are insecure and jealous, and we have to take that out on someone else because we don't know how to deal with it. That's not very right of us! People need to learn how to find ways to make themselves feel better and less judgemental because it hurts everyone, including themselves. We need to learn how to love each other and ourselves ♡

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  7. The thing that bothers me most about slut shaming is that women shame other women. Slut shaming is a form of bullying. Just because you don't agree with someone's actions regarding sex or how revealing they dress it doesn't give you any right to put them down.

    "You all have got to stop calling each other sluts and whores. It just makes it ok for guys to call you sluts and whores."

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  8. I understand what you're saying, but how can you have nothing but respect for a girl who has sex with boys who are taken and makes them her boyfriend? There are plenty of females out there who do that and even worse. April, I'm just going to make up a scenario... if Sloth went to a party and a girl got carried away with him, let's say she's been known to do that with a lot of guys, and you found out... wouldn't you be mad? Wouldn't you call her names and lose respect for her? Put yourself in that position. It would hurt, and it's a human's nature to react negatively to a negative act.

    I'm not saying all girls who do sexual activities with more than one guy, especially before marriage, are "sluts". But there are THOSE females who do deserve to be labeled with bad names. This is just my opinion though.

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  9. Honeslty, it's fine to state your opinion but to call someone a slut simply because of how they dress or talk or ridiculous. That seems to be what people think a slut is now and days.

    A slut is not someone who dresses revealingly or someone who flirts, which people need to get right.

    I find it funny(not the right word?) and ridiculous how people think if a woman is raped it's suddenly because she was being a slut or is a slut. Yes, a woman may have been flirting and such but that does not mean she asked to be raped. A woman who falls asleep or pass out(drunk or not) should also not be slut shamed as she has no control of who rapes or molests her. It's the mans...fault or choice to do so.

    Also, what about little girls or boys who are raped? Was it because they were being sluts? No.

    This also goes for men as well, men seem to not come up in this topic very often. I'm sure many are also being slut shamed.

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  10. There's a huge difference between Sexually provocative, promiscuous and slut

    Generally a sexually prov active person, male or female is seeking attention from the opposite sex(which even animals do so, i don't see as wrong)

    Generally a promiscuous person has their heart closed off and is only looking for something they know isn't risky. (again, isn't bad but i think is depressing)

    A slut is a person who vowed to a moral standing by agreeing to only be sexually active with one person and then going back on their word.

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    1. I'm pretty sure humans and animals are vastly different. Hence why we have brains to actually make wise decisions.

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  12. "Woman should be allowed to wear, act, and do what they want without someone calling her damaging names. If a man did any of these things, nobody would wink an eye. Double standards"
    - if a guy wants to wear a skirt or a dress, he is called a faggot or a sissy. There's no double standard. Both genders are discriminated against. You're wrong here.

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  13. God bless you! I've been trying to find words to teen girls why slut-shaming does not exist and shouldn't be tried to bring it down our throats. You said it all

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