Hi girls (and guys) this whole post is going to be about getting over a breakup in the most healthy ways possible! I know that breakups can be really tough and sometimes people tend to feel really alone, so I really hope this helps some of you! Even if you personally are not going through a breakup you can send this to someone who is.
♥ It's okay to be sad ♥
After seeing myself, and others go through break ups it seems like a lot of people feel somewhat stupid for feeling sad. When two people break up there is always someone who ends up being more sad than the other, and if that ends up being you, then it's okay to be sad. It really is. We're all human, and we all have feelings.
♥ Get rid of everything having to do with them ♥
Starting over is key, and keeping photos around your room isn't going to help. Delete them off Facebook, throw away pictures, give back presents, anything that you have! If you're sitting in your room and you see all these things, chances are its going to make you sad!
♥ So you have a lot of the same friends... ♥
I've been in the situation where you have a lot of the same friends as your ex. Or maybe you guys are even in the same group of friends. In my situation, it ended up pretty messy, but i'll give you the best advice I can! Explain your feelings to your friends. Tell them that for the moment being you just can't be around him/her and if they could please not take sides, but split their time between the two of you. If they start treating you differently and bring him/her around you even though they know what you're going through chances are they really don't care about your feelings. You can find some new people to hang out with! Join a school club, or sport.
♥ Treat yourself ♥
Go out for a big fancy dinner, go to lush and buy whatever you want, shop online, watch tv all day, do whatever makes you the happiest. Because you're worth it!
♥ Think, but not against yourself ♥
Lets be real here. A lot of us can be really hard headed and put ALL the blame on one person. Sometimes it is one person who does all the wrong things but sometimes its a joint effort. Realize and accept the fact that you may have done something wrong. Don't beat yourself up about it though, things happen and if two people are meant to be together, they will be. No matter what! I'd also like to add, that if you broke up because the other person was doing you wrong, don't feel like its your fault. AT ALL.
♥ The "I hate you" phase ♥
It seems like everybody goes through this phase. You've been broken up for a while and all the sudden you decide you hate him/her. You hate their face, you hate their voice, you hate their friends, you hate just about everything about them. But try not to get your emotions get the best of you. Don't use a huge word like hate! Realize that you once used to have strong feelings for this person, and that you're just in the process of getting over this person. Let it pass, and try not to say anything that you might regret later. The hate phase is actually what helps a lot of people get over their ex.
♥ Vent it all out ♥
Just do it, it will help! Tell a friend, a parent, tumblr, anyone!
♥ Give it time ♥
I know everybody says this, but I promise it gets better as time goes by.
Sometimes things get messy, and if you feel like your life is in danger because of an ex, their friends, or their family please call the police as soon as you can. If you are looking for advice on abusive relationships please click here that website also has a free 24/7 live chat with trained professionals that are willing to help you and get the information you need. If you're not in abusive relationship or question that you are in one you can still talk to them. They will help you with anything you need! You can even vent to them if you need to. You are not obligated to be with someone if you do not want to be. You are your own person and someone can not force you to be with them. If you are a woman and are in abusive relationship but are unwilling to leave because you have no where to go, you can click here for a list of shelters you can go to.
♥ Remember that I love all of you and this too shall pass! Muah! ♥